A Quiet Place

The house next door, once vacant and more or less abandoned for years, is alive again with the sound of workmen’s saws, jackhammers, and polka music from 8 to 4. The overgrown jacaranda in their yard that used to shielded my living room from the afternoon sun and give me the half-illusion of living in a Southern California arboretum if I squinted hard enough has been cut down and hauled away to make room for piles of rotten wood and old concrete, which are then cleared away at regular intervals to make room for new piles of ejecta. It’s good that the owners are sprucing up their neglected property, but the noise from all this improvement is excruciating.

My across-the-hall neighbor Rachel moved out two months ago to co-habitate with her boyfriend. I wish her all the luck in the world, but resent the different sort of banging that could be heard from the other side of our shared bedroom wall as the handymen refinished the floors and did whatever else they typically do when freshening up a place in order to entice new tenants into paying $3,500 a month for a small one-bedroom apartment.

Last month the noises started coming from an entirely new direction when the low, constant-yet-oddly-soothing Satchmo-like growl of my downstairs neighbor, Stephen, was replaced with the sound of power tools and yelling to be heard over power tools. I found his kitchen door wide open as I climbed down the back stairs to the laundry room. The place was gutted. Any trace of the man who had lived there for the last forty-four years had been eradicated, which caused me to worry. Did he move out by choice? Was he ill? We weren’t friends, but we were neighborly. The owners are now installing new kitchen cabinets, which have been boxed up and cluttering the building’s foyer for a week. I saw another tenant moving out the other day. One I’d never even met. They’ll be starting on his apartment next and the noise will continue. The only quiet hours of daylight occur on Sundays. If I’m lucky. At night, there is an eery silence with my part of the building now half-empty.

My neighbors are vanishing one by one. News from the outside has been relentlessly awful. It is either too noisy or too silent to write much, even when I am able to concentrate. And so, dear reader, I feel as though I am slowly going mad.

Most means of escape that I once took for granted like hopping on a train to stay with friends or an airplane to visit my family are currently not an option. I get clammy just thinking about getting on a bus to go take a peek at the ocean, mask or no mask. My world has become remarkably small over the past few months and there are precious few places to which I can safely flee to find a bit of peace and quiet.

Fortunately, there is one tiny corner of the world where I feel I can take refuge– my local park. It’s a very short walk to a place designated to honor a man with an extremely long name– Marie-Joseph Paul Yves Roch Gilbert du Motier, Marquis de La Fayette, the French hero of The American Revolution. It’s a small park, but it is surrounded on all sides by points of personal interest. To its west lies the hospital where I had my appendectomy. To the east is the home of Julie Newmar’s somewhat creepy younger brother. To the south is a building which offers up the dubious claim to have been the temporary residence of Sir Arthur Conan Doyle. And what, you may well ask, is so special about the northern edge of the park? It is dominated by a Beaux-Arts confection called The Spreckels Mansion, built by syphilitic sugar magnate Adolph Spreckels and his artists’ model wife, Alma. It also happens to be the San Francisco residence of the 4th best-selling author of all-time, Danielle Steel.

In the park there is a long bench, high up and shaded by trees, which overlooks Washington Street and the mansions that line it. For example, Mrs. Merrill’s house, where I was once invited by my friend Justin (her live-in personal chef) to hang out as he prepared her dinner. After her meal was finished, Mrs. Merrill asked to meet me and suggested that Justin give me a tour of the house. From the top floor, he pointed to an enormous place across the little stretch of Octavia Street where Alma Spreckels convinced the city to place barriers in the road to slow down traffic enough to help with her husband’s sexually-transmitted headaches. He indicated that it was Ms. Steel’s house and that was my first glimpse of the woman, wearing a nightgown and pacing her bedroom carpet. Feeling a bit Peeping Tom-ish, I averted my eyes by lifting them to her rooftop, where I saw a play set– one of the cheap sorts in primary colored plastic. From my perspective, it looked as though the yellow slide would shoot any child brave or stupid enough to use it straight over the side and down three stories into her privacy hedges. That could not have been the case as I realized such placement would be architecturally unlikely, but it was my first impression of the woman and I cannot say it was entirely wrong.

And twenty years later, I find myself sitting on a park bench across the street from from her house in Portuguese fisherman sandals and a surgical mask wondering where all the time and most of my sanity and even that ugly play set have gone.

I always bring a good book with me when I visit the bench. There is perverse satisfaction to be had in reading good literature in front of the house of a pulp romance writer, though I can only get through ten or fifteen pages at a sitting because my attention span is shot to hell. But I tell myself it’s what I should be doing. I’m currently reading Less by Andrew Sean Greer, which was given to me for my birthday. I had the book tucked under my arm when I left the park the other day and ran into a friend at the grocery store who mentioned she knew the author. I told her I thought I had another friend who might know him and it turns out she’s friends with my other friend and all I could think was “San Francisco is the smallest world in the world.” Everything seems connected. Every book and every person and every park bench and every mansion, if you’ve lived here long enough and that, in its small way, is grounding.

When I arrive most mornings, when I find I can get out of bed at all, it’s foggy and cold, which is how I like my San Francisco summers. Yesterday, I shared the long bench with a bottle of water belonging to a woman doing Tai Chi. I looked up from my book at one point to find her hands open and held away from her body like a department store mannequin, rotating her torso slowly towards the mansion. Her hands then gently clenched into fists and I read far more into that gesture than was likely intended. Had she, like I, overheard Ms. Steel’s out-of-touch complaint regarding the quality of diamonds in San Francisco? Had she, too, been left with an unwanted party favor pack of cards labeled “Fifty Fabulous Farts”? I may never know for certain. The bottle was eventually replaced by a woman who took off her mask to smoke a cigarette, thereby breaking at least two park policies. She looked as though she was having a rough morning, so I said nothing. I read maybe five pages before my brain stopped working and returned home to the noise.

And that, dear readers, is another glimpse into my day-to-day, COVID-inspired life. I know I’ve been away too long, but it feels like the wrong time to tell my stories and the idea of ironic or clever recipe writing makes me feel a bit… “whoopsie”? Is that the current polite term for being sick to one’s stomach? I may have recently heard that come out of the mouth of Brett Sommers on a Match Game ’74 YouTube clip and I hate that I’m not certain.

I feel like there are more important things to be doing right now, although I feel a bit helpless to do anything at the moment except check in on friends from time to time, send condolence cards when needed, call my family once a week, iron absolutely everything that can be ironed in my apartment, and try to believe that there is any sort of future ahead that isn’t totally bleak.

But it’s also good to reach out and tell people you’re doing okay. Or that you’re doing not-okay. Some days I’m one, some days– most days, really– I’m the other. But I’m alive and that, I suppose, is a good thing. I need to give myself permission to write as a diversion and that’s a challenge right now. But I’ll get there, I promise.

Just as soon as all this god damned* hammering stops.

*I was going to say “Just as soon as all this fucking hammering stops”, but my father hates it when I use profanity on my blog.

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About Michael Procopio

I write about food and am very fond of Edward Gorey. And gin.
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30 Responses to A Quiet Place

  1. Sharon Miro says:

    It’s hard to explain to other people that I can relate so well to someone I have never met. Oh, well.
    Fuck them.

  2. Jay Floyd says:

    Remaining sane presently is an insult to the institution of reality. We’re all considering the unconsiderable in one way or another, which could make for an interesting decade.

  3. tgt says:

    I always love your writing.

  4. Holly Hughes says:

    Loved this! I do believe, though, that Brett Sommers was probably saying, “making whoopie,” which was the Match Game 74’s term of art for fornication. However “whoopsie” is probably more useful, giving pandemic social rules. I will think of you daily as I listen to the construction noises above our apartment, which has been going on since March 2019…

  5. peg lamphier says:

    I think people who are not noise sensitive have no idea how stressful and anxiety provoking noise is… particularly noise that invades your home. I’ve got a perfectly horrible, wife beating, drug dealing guy across the street who likes to play the boom boom music with the base turned up really loud. I get freaked out and …. there’s no place to go. My husband thinks I’m a loon. Maybe I am. You take care. Keep going to your bench. This too shall pass.

    • I’m not typically noise sensitive. I’ve lived in SF for 25 years and have long since learned to ignore bus and traffic noise and occasional midnight shoutings from the alley behind my apartment.

      Your situation sounds horrible and I pity the poor woman across the street. That sounds absolutely awful.

  6. Janice Morrison says:

    Our new neighbors moved in three months ago. They are rather loud, but I have come to love them. They are on a short term rental, leaving late September I believe, and I will be bereft when they leave for the south. At first the wife’s incessant calling for her husband to service her were annoying, but when the triplets were born I forgave her. They are lovely kids – full of energy – zooming about, calling to each other in a sort of endearing sibling rivalry way. Today all three of the kids landed on our deck trellis and looked quite surprised when the dog and I came out to see them. Merlins are the best! I hope they come again next year, even though they eat nothing but songbirds.
    I read Less for my book club in the fall and it really picked me up from an existential dive I was in. Over what I can now not imagine.
    My heart positively leaps when I get a notification saying you’ve posted.

    • You really had me going there for a while, marveling at the swiftness of your neighbor’s remarkably fast gestation and her children’s impressive growth spurts. But I bet you did that on purpose.

      I just took a few minutes to learn about merlins. They’re rather gorgeous creatures, aren’t they?

      Also, I am so glad to know that there are people in the world who look forward to my posts. Thank you enormously for that.

  7. Thea says:

    Oh, my, one of your finer pieces. And you choose the most *apt* titles. I live in the very southern most corner of Southern California, and this portrait to me is the San Francisco I know. Thank you for the lift today.

    • You know, I still haven’t seen the film, but it’s on my watchlist. I’m just can’t bring myself to watch scary movies. The world is frightening enough at the moment.

      I’m very happy to know this post gave you a lift. I thought it might depress people, but what do I know about anything anymore?

  8. Krystalia Psimenou says:

    I just want to say γεια, that’s hello in Greek, from a hot almost deserted by its inhabitants ( whoever can leave the city and go to an island, mountain, village, has done so ) Athens. It’s fascinating to travel through your writing to San Francisco and have a taste of your life thousands of miles away from my neighbourhood.
    Take care or να προσεχεις!

    • Yia Sou Krystalia,

      May I first apologize for my extremely tardy response to your lovely comment. I went away for a while and didn’t have the stomach to come back until now and therefore missed some marvelous comments from a few more-than generous reader, which made my heart sink.

      I’m glad I can bring you a little taste of San Francisco through my writing. Now if only you could magically transport me to Greece because I have a deep affection for both the country and its people. And, dear lord, I truly miss Greek food. I suppose that’s what working in a Greek restaurant for 17 years will do to you.

      Happy New Year to you,


  9. kath the cook says:

    I for one would love an ironic or clever recipe, ha. A very large apartment complex is currently being constructed behind my lovely calm duplex – I can relate as I’m currently still working from home (but awfully thankful to still have a job).

    I too look forward to your posts and enjoy them enormously – you are gifted.

    Yep, things are terrible hard these days. Hang on – it can only get better (I hope). Especially if the election goes the right way in November – what a travesty we’ve been living.

    • Dear kath the cook,

      I can’t fully express how horrified I am to realize that there were wonderful comments like this that have been left un-responded to for months. And yet so delighted to have discovered them. I am guilty of active blog-avoidance for far too long. Is the construction finished behind your duplex yet? Mine’s thankfully all done.

      And now the election has come and gone and I’m so grateful what’s-his-name will be leaving but I still won’t be able to relax until he’s officially gone. I want the space he’s taken up in my brain free to come up with more ironic and clever (your words, not mine and yet I thank you deeply, just the same) recipes in the future! And I will never abandon my blog for so long again.

      Here’s to a happier New Year,


  10. Deborah says:

    I love seeing that you’ve written a new post. I’m in a small town in Alabama, which – to put it lightly – brings down my optimism on an almost daily basis. Missing so many of my far-flung friends has been hard this year, but I have a seat outdoors that looks out on things that give me inspiration.
    I’m so glad that you reached out to your readers, even if you’re not in a good place today. It gives me motivation to do the same with my far-flung friends.
    The hammering, though, that sucks like a cocaine-infused-lemon.

  11. Naomi D. says:

    An entry! Bless you (says the woman who never, ever, uses the word “bless.” Well, maybe “bless his heart” but that’s different). All fairly quiet in New Orleans. Too hot to be otherwise. The bars, the restaurants, the bakeries – too many closed here, and too few will reopen. Where locals are, people wear masks. House prices are going up too. Silly, isn’t it? I read the other day that someone was amazed at all the “for rent” in San Francisco, and prices down. Your landlord should give you a break for putting up with all that noise! Because all landlords are such considerate, understanding people; right.
    Glad to see your words, read about you on the third coast.

  12. Carrie says:

    Living and working around people saying “I seen” and “I done” (although wonderful human beings) makes me feel starved for real language. When I can’t stand it any longer, I drop by your blog, and I’m always so delighted to see a new post. It’s one of those events that warrants getting up from my desk to make a cup of tea or coffee. It’s wonderful.

    • Dear Carrie,

      Four months. FOUR MONTHS! since you wrote this comment. That is how long it’s been since I’ve been able to face visiting my blog.
      The fact that you think I am hot-caffeinated beverage-worthy is the best news I’ve read in ages and I am so grateful to have you as a reader, even if I am so ill-mannered as to take a third of a year to respond. Thank you, dear woman.

  13. Jan Morrison says:

    I just wanted to say hello in there, hello. Thinking of you through this insanity. Realizing that I haven’t been breathing properly for the last four years and a bit. Can’t imagine what shape I’d be in if I were an American. Love to you. And as that fine outrageous American riffed “keep on truckin'”.

    • Have any of us been breathing properly? Or thinking or feeling or eating or sleeping properly? I’m totally exhausted.

      I’m so sorry it took me so long to say “hello!” back to you. I just couldn’t bear to face my blog for ages. But I am very glad to be back. Also, I think my sister had a “Keep on Truckin'” iron-on patch affixed to the back pocket of a pair of flared jeans at some point in the past, but I cannot be certain.

  14. Dennis says:

    Been away from the blog feeder for a while, I hope you continue to do mostly okay. If we had to suffer through a plague in order to pitch tRump out of office, maybe it was worth it. Somehow, though, it seems that doing the right thing should not have to be so cataclysmic.
    Be well, be safe…

    • Dennis,

      It boggles my mind that it took a pandemic to get that son-of-a-bitch out. There is so much awful in the world, but watching the door hit him in the ass on his way out cheers me and that time cannot come soon enough. I want the part of my brain that has dedicated itself to horror and hyper-vigilance over the past few years back. It’s taken up too much room in our lives.

      Also, I am very sorry for the extremely late response. I really have been away too long.

      Cheers to you, my good fellow,


  15. Why says:

    I’ve been a reader of your blog for a few years now since I discovered it. I still drop in now and then to see if you’ve got a new post. I wanted to finally drop in and tell you that I love your writing!
    And hang in there!! I’m halfway around the globe from where you are and things are just as bleak with the pandemic in the way. It seems like such a long time ago when days didn’t feel so repetitive and nightmares of going out without a mask weren’t even a thing.
    Hope you have a safe and lovely rest of the year (despite being separated from friends and family). Sending love and strength!

    • Dear Why,

      I am so glad you finally decided to make yourself known! (And I apologize for the late response– I couldn’t even bear to so much look at my blog for months) I can’t tell you how cheering it is to know that people enjoy my writing– especially in a year when I’ve barely had the stomach for telling stories. It strengthens me and I am very appreciative of that. Thank you very, very much.

  16. Judy says:

    I have followed you for ohhhhh, maybe 10 years or so. I’ve lapsed in recent years though not as drastically as in the Catholic faith I was brought up in. I feel I know you, at least the things about you that you generously share, so I know, as this story confirms, that this infernal year has smeared some of the brighter parts of your soul with grey, maybe even a charcoal-grey. I just want to tell you to have heart and hold on for better days ahead. Happier new year, Michael

    • Judy,

      Thank you for this wonderful note. It is very much appreciated– especially in these times. Holding on for better days ahead has been a challenge, for sure and I’m grateful my soul hasn’t been irredeemably blackened, but you’re right– it has certainly darkened.

      Here’s to future, bearable lightness. Happier New Year to you, too.

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